'90-Day Fiancé' star Rosemarie Vega has 'no regrets' after leaving Big Ed, and here's why
Break-ups are hard, but have you ever called it off with someone after getting your heart broken on a reality show aired all over the world?
Rosemarie Vega did, and she has totally "moved on."
In an interview with Dr. Anna on GMA Digital's "Share Ko Lang," the fierce Filipina said she had no regrets about ending her relationship with Ed Brown on "90-Day Fiancé."
Why? Because she was simply being true to herself.
"Wala po akong panghihinayang sa mga nangyari," Rose said.
[I have no regrets about what happened.]
"ANG iniisip ko na lang that time kasi, 'Reality to eh.' So ipakita mo kung sino ka. Bahala na 'yung tao kung tatanggapin ka or hindi."
[All I was thinking of at that time was, 'This is reality, so show who you are and whether or not people would accept you.]
In "90-Day Fiancé," Rose got to know her boyfriend Ed Brown a lot better beyond their relationship that blossomed online.
Not only did Ed lie about his height and appearance, he also failed to tell Rose immediately that he didn't want to have any more kids.
Fans also enraged over how Ed treated Rose as a partner, and how he reacted when she opened up her home and introduced him to her family and friends in the Philippines.
As a single mother who wanted nothing more than a better life for her son, Prince, Rose eventually did what she thought was best and called off the relationship.
"Siguro 'yung totoong rason ay hindi na po talaga (kami) nag-click," Rose said.
[Maybe the real reason was we didn't really 'click' anymore, no matter what we did.]
"Bilang gusto ko talagang magkaroon ng sariling pamilya kung gusto rin naman po kasi niya, is why not maging maayos pa rin po kami" she added.
Despite wanting to give their 100% into the relationship, Rose knew it was time to pull the plug.
"Bilang babae po, unang-una, bago po nga naman bumitaw is magtatiyaga at magtitiis po muna 'yan," Rose said.
[As a woman, you still give it our best before deciding to let go.]
"So, lahat ng bagay na puwedeng nagiging negative, pinipilit kong maging positive hangga sa kahit anong bagay na pilit mong ipositive nang positive kahit sobrang negative na kung talagang ayaw na, hindi talaga kaya why not bitaw na."
[I tried turning everything negative into positive, but if something refuses to become positive no matter what you do and if that person refuses to budge, then why not let go?]
Of course, Rose was thinking about Prince's future.
"For me po, ang pinanggagalingan po kasi ng lakas ng loob ko at that time is 'yung anak ko."
[I always draw I all my strength from my son.]
"Ako po [yung] tipong babae na naga-advance na po akong mag-isip sa mga mangyayari."
[I am the type who plans ahead and wonder what would happen in the future.]
"Nilakasan ko lang po ang loob ko. Alam ko po 'yung ganon lang po 'yung nangyayari sa unang sitwasyon pa lang what more kung patatagalin ko pa?"
[I just mustered up the courage, thinking, 'If this happened during the first stages of our relationship, what more if I decide to let our relationship go on?']
No regrets, just lessons learned
Although she had "no regrets" about ending her relationship with Ed, Rose admitted she was more conscious about dating now compared to before.
"Na-trauma ako diyan pero siguro po kaya, hanggang ngayon, hindi pa po talaga ako totally gustong..." Rose said.
[I was traumatized, and maybe that's why until now I do not totally want...]
"Parang sobrang na-trauma ako sa nangyari at sabi ko, 'Sige wag muna ngayon.' Siguro, 'pag ready na ulit ako ready na ulit kami, lalo na ng anak ko, okay na po ako,"
[I was so traumatized that I said, 'Okay, maybe it's not yet time to date.' Maybe when we're ready again, especially my son, I'll be okay.]
When it comes to online romances, Rose urged netizens to really get to know a person before going into a relationship.
"Kasi pag picture, nakakadaya po kasi talaga eh. Tapos makipag-video call ka, tapos pakita niya kung ano talaga background niyo parehas. Kung tanggap, why not?"
[Pictures can be deceiving. Also, try to video call to let each other know who you truly are, as well as your background. If it passes, why not?]
But most importantly, one of the best things Rose learned on "90-Day Fiancé" was how you can't let yourself be the only one who "gives" in a relationship.
“Kung totoong mahal niyo yung bawat isa, yung bawat bansang pinanggalingan niyo o pupuntahan niyo, kailangan din ng adjustment sa isang relasyon,"
[If you really love each other, both of you have to adjust no matter where you go and where you come from.] — Margaret Claire Layug/LA, GMA News