Syd Hartha speaks up about alleged abuse by own father

Singer Syd Hartha broke her silence and opened up in social media about the alleged abuse she suffered at the hands of her own father.

In a Facebook post on Thursday, Hartha said she grew up yearning for the love and attention of her biological father.

For almost a year, she said, she was finally given a chance to be with her father but it turned into a heartbreaking story as she experienced several instances of abuse caused by him.

"Hinding-hindi ko makakalimutan iba’t ibang klase ng abuso na dinanas ko sa kanya. Kaya pala ako nilalayo ng nanay ko at iba pang mga kamag-anak ko sa kanya. Kaya pala," she said.

Hartha did not identify a specific person, but she named a certain "Makoy" and appeared to be referring to her father, Eraserheads' guitarist Marcus Adoro.

She admitted that no matter how much she tried to distance herself from Makoy, he always managed to draw her back.

He would physically hurt her several times, she said, and would even slam her head against the wall right in front of her friend or when her mother wasn't looking.

"Hindi lang isang beses na sinaktan niya ako nang pisikal. Tinatama niya ulo ko sa pader; kahit sa harap ng kaibigan ko o kapag nakatalikod nanay ko," she said.

Hartha, who gave GMA News permission to use her post in this article, shared on Facebook screenshots of her disturbing conversation with her alleged abuser, where he told Hartha she's going to get raped.

He even cursed her repeatedly and demanded that she unblock him or he would kill her.

Another victim

Hartha also shared her conversation with Barbara Ruaro, Adoro's former partner.

In the conversation, Ruaro said that their abuser kept trying to contact her.

He apparently even sent a photo of himself to Ruaro saying, "Charles Manson trip lang. Labyu," referring to the 60's cult leader who made his followers murder several people.

Ruaro herself opened up about the domestic violence she suffered caused by an unnamed party.

On Instagram, Ruaro shared photos of bruises and cuts all over her face and body and recalled all the times the abuser would gaslight her and manipulate her both emotionally and psychologically.

 

 

 

 

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Some people have told me not to dwell and just move on. Some people have suggested that exposing his name to the public will bring me instant gratification. Some people think it's my fault because I stayed, kept silent, and enabled him... I promised myself if I'm going to fight for this case, I'm going to do it right. The series of photos posted are just half of the damage done to my body. The internal wounds keep me up night, while my abuser is still running free. Time and time again, I was made to feel everything was my fault. That if he treated me badly, it was because I deserved it. That everytime I reacted negatively to his abuse, it was a result of my PTSD and not the abuse itself. He used my weaknesses against me, brainwashing me into believing no one will ever understand me like he does. He asked me several times to quit my career and just devote my life to him. He said we have dreams to fulfill, and don't I ever leave or he will commit suicide. I wasn't allowed to leave the room, even if he broke things in front of me with his hands. I was isolated from my friends and family, and the only chance I'd get to see people was if I needed to be at work. And that was just the beginning. I am healing and processing; it doesn't just end when you walk out the door. My self is my top priority now. My faith, family, and friends are what keep me strong, especially during days when I get the sense that all hope is lost. I am very very afraid, but I won't be silenced by the fear he has instilled. Not this time. I will make sure justice is served. Thank you to all those who have been there for me through these trying times. I wouldn't know what to do without you guys ???? Maraming salamat sainyo.

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Sep 8, 2019 at 2:16am PDT

"The internal wounds keep me up [at] night, while my abuser is still running free," Ruaro wrote. "Time and time again, I was made to feel everything was my fault. That if he treated me badly, it was because I deserved it. That everytime I reacted negatively to his abuse, it was a result of my PTSD and not the abuse itself. He used my weaknesses against me, brainwashing me into believing no one will ever understand me like he does."

"I am very very afraid, but I won't be silenced by the fear he has instilled. Not this time. I will make sure justice is served," she added.

Hartha also shared a poster saying that Marcus Adoro is being charged with Violence Against Women and Children and Comprehensive Dangerous Drugs act.

GMA News Online has reached out to Adoro for comment.

—JCB, GMA News