Alessandra de Rossi reveals 5 lessons she learned from past relationships

Alessandra de Rossi has opened up on the lessons she learned from her past relationships.

In a "Share Ko Lang" episode with psychologist Dr. Anna Tuazon, the 36-year-old actress shared her reflections on the different kinds of love she experienced.

1. Love doesn't have to be a drama film

"Ang love ay madali lang pala siya," said Alex. "Sa mga relationships ko before kasi siguro dahil younger rin ako, younger din sila, it was so full of drama."

As years went by, she realized that love doesn't have to be that way. Relationships can actually be pretty chill, she said.

"Pwede pala 'yun na mayroon kang partner na hindi kayo nag-aaway, hindi pinag-aawayan 'yung bagay na hindi dapat pag-awayan," she said.

2. Know your deal breakers

Deal breakers can play a big part in any relationship. For Alessandra, she said that cheating was a major deal breaker for her.

"Cheating definitely because kahit na hindi na niya ulitin for example, ikaw, you're never gonna be the same person again," she said.

"Once hindi lang sumasagot ng phone, nawawala, may kausap habang nagtetext hindi mo na alam.Parang nababaliw ako kasi overthinker ako," she added.

3. Your world and your partner's shouldn't revolve around each other

To make a relationship healthy, your world and your partner's shouldn't revolve only around each other.

"Dati hindi ko naiintindihan 'yun nung bata ako parang di ba dapat laging magkasama? Bakit masaya siya pagkasama niya 'yung friends niya? Bakit pinili niya 'yung gumimik? Hindi ako gumigimik so hindi ako kasama. Parang so gumimik siya instead mag stay in? Masakit 'yun," the actress said.

Dr. Tuazon also said that not making your partner your whole world is very important.

"It's actually very important na, you know what, I don't have to be the only person in his or her life and vice versa and that's okay. That's love," she said.

4. Your mistakes don't define you

Alessandra shared that although we made mistakes in the past and would wish we did things differently, we have to remind ourselves that these do not define ourselves.

"Masakit man sila gaano man sila kasakit, if only I can do it all over again, but kung hindi ko 'yun ginawa magiging ganito 'yung buhay ko," the actress said. "And hindi ko makilala 'to."

"Everything happens for a reason," she added.

Dr. Tuazon also agreed with Alessandra's insight, saying, "In a way you don't even need to regret the mistakes you had kasi it brought you here."

5. As you grow older, you just want peace and quiet

"I just want peace and quiet and people who trust me and whom I trust. 'Yun lang pala kailangan ko," Alessandra said.

She also added that the person would simply bring out the best in you and would lift you up.

Dr. Tuazon agreed. "What kind of love is it if they want you to be smaller than you are?" —Kaela Malig/MGP, GMA News